Not one but two different friends of her from the office had babies last month. This is obviously a happy thing and I am really happy for them both. But that's it. Do I have to visit some guys who I haven't seen more than 10 times in my life because they had babies? Well, not exactly. But my wife does. And even though she is a much more social person compared to me, trust me, she didn't want it either. But what the heck, these people are from her office, and these are the people she sees everyday, she felt she had to follow the expectations.
And we did not only visit them, but also bought a golden coin. We bought only one coin for only one of the families, and we only bought some fancy baby coat for the other family, because those coins don't come for free. So, she just had to make a choice, and this choice was made according to some complex social formulations.
I always hated the ways of society. When I was a teenager, I remember one time when I told my mother how stupid it was to try to live according to some shitty social norms which nobody seemed to enjoy but yet everybody was eager to bash who didn't. And I still think it is stupid. However though, while growing up, i pretty much realized that everybody needs everybody and a society needs some sets of least common denominators covering everybody, so that the society can survive. If you want to expect people do what you expect from them to do, you just have to do what they expect from you to do. And yes, i know, it is as stupid as it sounds.
Let me tell you that i don't want to sound like i support the opposite: a total individualism. well, it simply doesn't work either. Yet, that's another matter.
So we bought our golden piece, and since it would be rather rude to hand it just like that, we bought a pretty
OK now, I totally understand that there should really be ways of doing things as long as we are dependant to each other. And even if we are not dependant, there should still be ways to do things rather than acting like true gorillas. But, I don't understand why we insist on complying the most